I had heard that Japanese guys tend to be intimidated by foreign women.When I first came, I felt no guys found me attractive since they never looked my way.Back home I’m at prime dating age but I wonder about the guys I date here and why they’re not married yet.Rebecca: Yeah, it seems like back home dating is really much more frequent.Chiara: I heard too that Japanese men weren’t so interested in foreign women but my experience is kind of the opposite.But you don’t know if they’re interested in you as a person or because of your foreignness.My friend, an American guy, has experienced a lot of first dates where the women already bring up kids and marriage and he’s like ‘woah, what about your favorite music first?
Chiara: With foreign guys it’s easier to figure them out I think.
Rebecca: Actually I think that must be difficult for foreign guys especially.
I don’t know if it’s true or not but I have heard that there are some Japanese girls who look to specifically date foreign guys because they’re seen as cool or ‘ikemen’.
But after they said goodbye and he messaged her saying he wanted to see her again so there’s obviously some kind of cultural dislocate there.
Anthony: I’ve heard so many stories like that where people go on dates and it’s a weird, awkward situation but then later they message you as if it was the best date ever. I feel that Japanese men scare quite easily and as a foreigner you won’t know exactly what it was that freaked them out.