He is also likely to to slow down and be more present for his partner, perhaps in ways he never considered or thought possible when things were working properly.Should you learn that your man is no longer able to “perform” in the usual way, even if temporarily, it is your cue to help him through it.In our culture, one of the worst things that can happen to a man is that he have an episode of erectile dysfunction. The male potency imperative is so strong that I’ve had men tell me they would rather die than lose their erectile function. Some female partners are negatively affected as well.Even if the cause is purely physical, they can interpret their man’s flaccid response as a sign that he no longer finds them attractive.
And, by all means necessary, never allow the term “performance” to enter your bedroom.When men lose the ability to get erect they lose some of the urgency that comes with it.And if the man so affected can successfully separate his sense of manhood from his erectile function, it opens him and his partner up to exploring other ways of being deliciously intimate.Instead, replace it with —the art of being fully present for each other when making love.Being present for each other during intimacy is about the most sensual thing two people can do in the bedroom.He also speaks pro-bono to Cancer Support Centers and Gilda’s Clubs around the U. for cancer survivors and their partners about regaining intimacy in the face of cancer.Go to Michael Russer to explore the possibility of having Michael speak at your next event.I interviewed one 40-year old woman who said her previous boyfriend had a bout of E. Which tends to explain why he is a “previous” boyfriend. When we guys get a hard-on, there is this very deep, visceral / primal urge to use it and use it .This tends to make us and our lovemaking very penile-focused—which is great for making babies, not always so for making love that is deeply connecting and fulfilling for both parties.Yet, it was because of his impotence that he and his partner discovered an entirely new approach to emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy that far exceeds anything either experienced prior to when things were working "correctly." His mission is to help men, women and couples everywhere to achieve extraordinary intimacy on all levels.He is an international speaker, author and thought leader on the issues of human connection and intimacy.