Liars will often bend the truth as a way to try to impress you.
In extreme cases, people will start to sweat because they’re so nervous about lying.
This can make it difficult to decide if they’re telling the truth or not.
If the person you’re talking to seeks attention in an overwhelming way, he or she is probably a liar.
In fact, you find yourself saying those three words — “I don’t know” — a lot when talking to your friends about him because you never know where you stand. You’ll catch him out in a lie and you’ll confront him, but he’s not going to give in so easily. You’ll lose your temper and he’ll make you seem like the bad one for it. Compulsive liars just can’t take responsibility for the crap they cause because they believe their own lies. Liars go through cycles: they’ll be charming and sweet, then they’ll lie, then they’ll get caught out and try to be extra charming and sweet to keep you hanging on. The sad thing is that the “great guy” might return, but never for long. A mistake is to think that you’re just being paranoid or dramatic, perhaps due to a turbulent romantic history that was riddled with men you couldn’t trust.
You’re constantly giving him the benefit of the doubt. They’ll give you really good reasons for their lies, so get the Kleenex ready because these tend to be sob stories fitted out with puppy dog eyes. If the compulsive liar knows about this, he’ll be sure to bring it up and use it against you so you can feel that you’re the problem.