Evolutionary psychologists say that relationships like this often occur because while fertility lasts only from puberty to menopause in women, it starts at puberty and can extend long into midlife for lots of men.
That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.
It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?
), but the benefits can certainly outweigh those little things.
“It’s the secret sex life of your parents and grandparents.” That’s what one 70-year-old woman in Somerset told Channel 4 News.
In fact, 51 per cent of people over 60 told us they are sexually active and many describe enjoying a late sexual bloom.
Anyone who’s been in a serious long-term relationship knows the journey isn’t without certain challenges, and when you’re dating an older man—we’re talking a decade or more—things can get even trickier.
“There does need to be perhaps a focus on trying to make services more older people friendly.” In many ways it is no surprise that older people are taking risks.And just like younger people, most are turning to the internet to do so.Connie, 83, from London has just signed up for a dating site, even though she can’t work a computer.Joey, 69, from London said: “I got to a point where I thought I’m going to kick the bucket fairly soon.” So three months ago, he joined Grindr, the mobile dating app for gay men, and told us he’s now “averaging, I would say, four men a week”.Joey is like almost half of all our respondents (46 per cent) who told us that sex is important to their lives.Margaret, 67 from Oxfordshire told us: “We still feel as though we have a right to be a sexual being as well as everything else. ” “Younger people nowadays must think: ‘Oh God, that’s gross, you know, granny’s at it,'” Myra, 67, in Essex, told us.But at it they are, and a third of those who are single told us they too would like to meet someone new.Online dating has made sex more accessible for men and women over 60.But as well as offering the possibility of greater sexual fulfilment, the internet is also throwing up new challenges and dangers.Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.