That brings us nicely to the other aspect of being late. We literally get off on seeing our partners get off. and whores in the bedroom (bathroom, kitchen, lounge etc).
We will give far more than we expect to receive – Although we won’t argue that point too much it has to be said. Perhaps we’re making up for lost time, or perhaps, because we are often quiet, unassuming, benign in public that we like to REALLY let loose, with someone we feel comfortable with. For all the randiness and horniness that we have lurking inside us, we are still lovers and idealists at heart.
Sometimes a friends with benefits arrangement seems like an ideal solution (when not really in a position for a relationship), as we would experience the closeness, intimacy and the ability to satisfy our own needs and those of someone else, but at the same time we have our solitude and space. So much so, that the other person can become overloaded and overawed by it – we either come across as too intense or they think we have much deeper feelings for them than we actually do. And both of which will ultimately end up hurting someone. This is something that comes out into play in the arena of sex, we want to play, we want to experiment, we want to explore and discover all the possibilities (and positions). We want gentle, compassionate sex, but we also want rampant, animalistic sex.
But even then, we might look, we might think about it, we might even start along the road to it, but when it comes to making the move, to that junction, we often stop and turn around – because we are idealists, we believe in love, we believe in loyalty and we want a relationship that lasts. Another reason why we shy from casual relationships – we can be too much and too confusing/conflicting for others.
Typically private and reserved individuals, I’ve decided to break the mould and open up about how sex is viewed as a male (single, heterosexual) INFJ. From my own experience it was a combination of things – not one for going out and partying (my hearing disability coupled with introversion), not a drinker and not one for superficial conversation (which seemed to be the norm for social situations).
Although these are my own views, I do know of other INFJ guys who share them, so perhaps it may well be a common theme among others. Many older (beg pardon, mature) INFJ men were virgins till a late age – mid-late twenties seems to be the norm. Not to mention when even thinking of approaching someone attractive my mind would go blank.
I think initially people (male and female) think online dating is better if for certain, but I think I got tagged with INFJ and my partner with INTJ.It’s almost never about the relationship or the other person. Our secondary function Fe (Extroverted Feeling) comes down to our need for harmony and to please others, so in sex this harks back to the act of pleasuring our partners first and foremost. Finding the two together has proved somewhat elusive (apart from one instance) and I expect will be the case for a long while to come. Given our propensity for the written word and due to the fact that many of our close connections are made online, sexting is a good outlet for us.Casual sex for an INFJ is pretty much a no-go area, it can happen of course, but there are usually repercussions that we don’t want to deal with and so we tend to shy away from pursuing one off flings or casual relationships. Making sure they are moaning and screaming in the throes of ecstasy, fingernails embedded in the back of our heads as we go down on them, or grasping the pillows as we explore, tease and discover all parts of their naked bodies. INFJs like to go deep INFJs appreciate depth and the darkness within, so yes we like to go hard and deep when it comes to sex. Harder still, is that many of the deep connections INFJs make, happen to be with other INFJs – and given our rarity, the fact that we tend to be further afield and often in different circumstances/place in life, it all adds up to something that is not conducive to developing that relationship we so desperately crave. It allows us to be an introvert, creative, use our imagination, develop our intuition and innuendo, increase the depth of emotional connection and please others without actually having to be there physically.Compatibility and Dating Advice for INFP Relationships Although there is a fairly balanced ratio of males and females with this character, it does seem that this Dating In the Infp World : A true, personal story from the experience, I Am An I've pretty much given up on trying to explain myself to any sort of partner .I am a male, and dating someone who I believe is more on the ENTJ side of things. My life-long pursuit of Anonymous said: I am INFP female and attracted to this INTJ male.But as well as being together intimately, we also value our solitude and alone time – something many other types may find confusing. I have strong friendships with women but none in a sexual way, which is frustrating because the connection, the depth, the friendship is powerful but there is no sexual tension there for me.They could interpret it as blowing hot and cold when in reality it’s just our innate need to be alone with our thoughts and recharge. Although I know of one INFJ guy who has a penchant for threesomes, I think most of us prefer a one on connection – someone to devote all our attention and energy to. Whereas I can experience sexual tension/attraction with a stranger, but no real depth of connection.In dating, INFPs will often start with a flurry of comparisons, exploring all the ways the current flame matches with the ideal they've imagined. But since this is a romantic relationship you're talking about, this may be a little different.This progression Here are a few dating tips if you are in a relationship with an INFP man or woman. Here's a link to a tumblr post about INTJ-INFP matches, which might be useful and It is possible that an ENFJ-INFP or ESFJ-ISFP relationship (romantic or not) could be an concept of the man being the more expressive and dominant partner.This comes to you from a single guy who basically hasn’t been getting any for the best part of five years (apart from one brief indiscretion many moons ago), so yep, fully qualified to do a blog post on INFJ sex. for the quiet, introverted, unassuming, benign exteriors we often project, it belies the relentless passion and thoughts of dark deeds that lurk beneath. Well, that’s a lie, it wouldn’t go blank per se, it would overload. A maelstrom of ideas on what to say, how to say it, the possible responses and how to deal with those.Anyway, I digress, time to get down and dirty and delve into the sexual mind and nature of male INFJs… And consequently all this would result in a bottleneck that literally prevented anything constructive from coming out.