There's so much talk lately about interracial unions, but few people are talking about what happens when you marry someone who believes something different happens to you when you die, or that women have another role in society than the one you've known them to fill your whole life, or that days you held sacred and holy don't even exist on their calendar.One of my Jewish clients is dating a Christian man for the first time.And so the contact that occurs through an extended family connection is also likely to have this effect.Naomi Schaefer Riley a senior fellow at the Independent Women’s Forum.Having one parent who is white and another who is black, one Christian and the other Jewish, December's Hanu-Kwanzaa-Mas caused some confusion for me.Luckily, supportive parents with a strong moral compass kept me on the straight and narrow, but their relationship couldn't weather certain storms.
I asked respondents about how old they were when they married, how they were raising their children, how they felt about members of other faiths, how often they attended religious services, and how welcoming they thought their religious communities were to interfaith families, along with dozens of other questions. In certain faith-combinations they are more likely to divorce.As we put off marriage, the time between when we leave our parents home and start our own families grows, and so often does our time away from religious institutions and practice.By the time we settle down we may not think of ourselves as particularly religious anymore and we may not consider faith much of an issue in picking a partner. Marrying someone of another faith makes you more likely to have a positive impression of that faith as a whole.If this is true, the rise in religious intermarriage over time may not be as pronounced as it appears, since the Religious Landscape Study measures only marriages intact today (i.e., it is possible there were more intermarriages before 1960 that have since ended in divorce).In any case, interfaith relationships are even common today among unmarried people living with a romantic partner than among those who are married.But that was decades ago and now we're living in modern times.Times when there's a public outcry over a Cheerios ad featuring an interracial couple.She had a conversation with her boyfriend that shook me.He said that he wanted his children to know about the things he grew up with -- Santa Claus for example. In modern American society most of us have the ability to marry for love, so while you should be respectful of your family and your culture, if you've exercised your right to choose a spouse, you should make your boundaries with family clear.She replied, "My children can know about Santa Claus. If your partner wants to convert, let it come from their desire to do so rather than nagging, forcing, or giving ultimatums. What happens behind closed sanctuary doors is not their business.They will know him as a man that brings Christian kids toys on Christmas." Which makes sense in a bubble, but when you have to consider the alternate beliefs and traditions of your partner, is it fair to essentially negate their entire religious existence if it's in conflict with yours? Most religions stand on some common ground, so search for similarities rather than dwelling on the differences. If you think the days of religious persecution are behind us, look no further than Myanmar where last week Buddhist leaders proposed a law banning Buddhist women from marrying men of another faith in order to preserve nationality and religion.