Picture the intimidating person dancing in a tutu, lounging in their undies with some chips or belting Adele's greatest hits during their commute. The idea is simply to use a goofy visualization to tell your brain they don't pose a threat, thereby shutting down the fight-or-flight stress response.Focusing too much on what you want from the intimidating person can make you miss important cues that could help you communicate more effectively. The reason for their bad mood, dominance or aggression might not have anything to do with you!
Standing proud and tall communicates to the intimidating person that you can't be pushed around, that you're sure of yourself. As social psychologist Amy Cuddy discusses in her well-received Ted Talk, good posture actually can the feelings of confidence you hope to portray. Science has proven that there are "mirror neurons" in the brain that respond to elements like facial expression and contribute to empathy, so if you adopt an approachable demeanor, you can get back what you give.For example, do they seem stressed themselves at the moment? Respond to those cues and ask yourself how you can serve them with compassion and genuineness.Small gestures or a kind word as you speak can be incredibly disarming and serve to build a better long-term relationship.The feeling of intimidation can make you mentally choke, leaving you at a loss for words that makes you feel even worse.You don't have to come up with a script you'll repeat word for word, especially because you have to respond naturally to whatever the other person says back.You can put an end to it starting today, and you don't need to sacrifice your pride or decorum to do it.We compare ourselves to others all the time because we get a feeling of safety and security when we know we're just as good as--if not better than--someone else. Your eyes are bluer than the Atlantic ocean and baby, I’m all lost at sea.15. I think I feel like Richard Gere – I’m standing next to you, the Pretty Woman.22. If I could be anything, I’d love to be your bathwater.26. It’s hard for me to concentrate on you because all the blood from my brain has immediately gone to my bone25. Intimidation has a way of stunting you, both professionally and in terms of personal growth.It's not, however, something you have to suffer by default.