During Sunday morning services we passed notes about who liked whom, who was going out with whom, and who had broken up with whom. We began to struggle with the physical side of our relationship.Wednesday night youth group meetings served as our own opportunities to play "Love Connection," a game that resulted in broken hearts littering the foyer. Since I was the only one in the youth group who had the nerve to talk to her, she wound up liking me. After my folks were asleep, Kelly and I would spend hours on the phone, often late into the night, talking about everything and nothing in particular. We knew we couldn't be as close physically as we were emotionally. "No, it's over." We broke up two years after we'd met. Something Better I was seventeen years old when my relationship with Kelly ended. " God answered that plea, but not in the way I had expected.
A girl stood up in the middle of the congregation, walked quietly to the altar, and took David's other hand. One girl I knew had the fastest breakup routine ever: When she was ready to end a relationship, she'd say, "Skippy-bop, you just got dropped." But soon, just saying you were going out with someone wasn't enough.Smart love constantly grows and deepens in its practical knowledge and insight; it opens our eyes to see God's best for our lives, enabling us to be pure and blameless in His sight.Sentimental Gush The Message paraphrases Philippians 1:9-10 this way: "Learn to love appropriately.God not only wants me to act differently, He wants me to think differentlyto view love, purity, and singleness from His perspective, to have a new lifestyle and attitude.The basis of this new attitude is what I call "smart love." Paul describes this kind of love in Philippians 1:9-10: And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ.As Paul describes it, love abounds in knowledge and insight.To "know" something is to understand or grasp it clearly and with certainty.More than 800,000 copies later, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, with its inspiring call to sincere love, real purity, and purposeful singleness, remains the benchmark for books on Christian dating. His greatest passion is preaching the gospel and calling his generation to wholehearted devotion to God. I know the various girls have forgiven me because I've asked them to.Now, for the first time since its release, the national #1 bestseller has been expanded with new content and updated for new readers. Each January he leads a national conference for singles called New Attitude. But I still feel the ache of having given away my heart to too many girls in my past.Unfortunately, youth group did little to improve my immature notions about relationships.Even in church we played the dating game with passionmore passion, I regret to say, than we gave to worshiping or listening to sermons. But, like many high school relationships, our romance was prematuretoo much, too soon.