I was curious as to what your real opinion is of online dating.
I did meet my girlfriend online, but after a year of painful struggle, meaning hardly any dates despite being educated, employed, and reasonably attractive.
Here is what I wrote back to her: First of all, I’ve had EVERY bad dating experience you can possibly imagine.
I’ve had women write me nasty emails, insult me over the phone, ignore my phone calls, stand me up, refuse to thank me for dinner, refuse to reciprocate in bed… And yet I still run around as this super dating advocate, because I believe it is the best prospect to find someone special.
They move on with their lives, while everyone else complains about the sites and the awful people on the sites.
My guy friends (also educated, attractive) complain that they get no responses and female acquaintences tell me that they get so many emails, etc, that they don’t know where to start-and often do nothing.They don’t have time to “date around” several times a week.(actually neither would I). Women, being more vulnerable than men, are more hesitant to date online, so you get a situation where there’s a lot more men than women.Aside from my own luck and the trendy radio ads and sexy commercials, it seems as if no one’s happy.I just urge people to find some healthier perspective on the whole thing.A private client told me just this weekend that she’s quitting online dating after three bad dates in a row.When I responded thata) There are worse things in life then having dinner with someone who you find unattractive, andb) His friend was at fault for not exchanging photos before meeting uphe was totally unconvinced, and more then a tad miffed that i should question his judgement.(Bear in mind that there weren’t even PCs around he was last single)Anyway, my dad’s friend has subsequently met a great woman on the internet with whom he is in a committed relationship.Has my dad’s attitude changed- of course not- in fact i doubt he even recognises a connection. Actually, everyone has many more than just one person with whom he/she can marry and establish a loving, happy and enduring relationship.And if it hasn’t happened to you yet, you can say “What’s wrong with these terrible people on these awful sites?” Or you can ask, “How can I make this work for me, despite the obvious flaws? But I’ll tell you, all it takes is one person – and you’ll be standing right with me.