It's always different when it's happening to you. Someday, I'll find my person, but it wasn't him.
Feeling the entitlement to limit who is the best person for either of them doesn't seem like it'd help anyone move on.
I can't say how it'd affect me if I were in OP's shoes, because I've never been in that situation. Both people are fantastic, and she suits him much better than I ever could. I am also pleased to be part of the group that introduced them.The sooner you let go of your past the sooner you can get on with your future. I think that all relationships, past and present, should be considered great opportunities for personal growth.If the relationship brought any sort of goodness to OP’s life, then looking at the person as someone with their own hangups and desires makes it easier to take the view of “I hope they find happiness”, even through what she might see as a betrayal of trust. That love may have faded, but perhaps there is enough left to truly wish them well and let go of Ill-will towards them.Nothing is less attractive than a person who is actively seeking someone to ‘complete’ them; it’s like a repelling agent that wreaks of despair. If you meet someone while enjoying who you are, you might find someone but you will definitely enjoy life a lot more.When you do find someone, look for others that compliment your life, not complete it. Playing devil's advocate, it is possible that he broke up with OP due to something OP did wrong or acted or whatever.If you have that, then that is how you truly get past it. That love may have faded, but perhaps there is enough left to truly wish them well and let go of Ill-will towards them.If you have that, then that is how you truly get past it.My heart is hurting for two reasons and I don't know how to deal with it in the best way.I think you're looking at this like you lost something valuable and she scooped it up. He was never of much value to you or he'd be with you still.Two ways to see it: Just so everyone knows, I don't care to talk about it since you guys don't know who I am (at least I hope not), I broke up with him, but I still had feelings for him. If the ex/friend think that they work together, and if OP and ex felt they didn't, I'm not sure where the problem lies.I mean I agree, but it's much easier to say so from this distance than if it were happening to us.