These criminals—who also troll social media sites and chat rooms in search of romantic victims—usually claim to be Americans traveling or working abroad. While their most common targets are women over 40 who are divorced, widowed, and/or disabled, but every age group and demographic is at risk. You’re contacted online by someone who appears interested in you.
He or she may have a profile you can read or a picture that is e-mailed to you.
Recognizing an Online Dating Scam Artist Your online “date” may only be interested in your money if he or she: Do not send money through any wire transfer service to someone you met online.
The chances of recovering your money are very slim.
There will be more hardships that only you can help alleviate with your financial gifts.
He may also send you checks to cash since he’s out of the country and can’t cash them himself, or he may ask you to forward him a package. You were targeted by criminals, probably based on personal information you uploaded on dating or social media sites.
You will be memorable and may be just a bit enticing. Everyone says that, and it’s likely to be filed under the “she’s just being polite” category. (You can apply this every step of the way: It was great to get your email, Bob. (He wants someone taller, is obsessed with something you don’t like, sees his last horrible girlfriend in you, etc.) Don’t let it discourage you.
That tells him that you’re willing to be open and not take things too seriously. ) Tell him that you’re excited about taking your niece to the park and swinging on the swings with her. This may be difficult for you; it is for many women. You’ve got to get over this if you want to help men get to know you. (At least the good guys do.) He’s only going to know how fabulous you are – and if you’re a good match – if you get some of your shiny stuff out.It’s as true online as in person; flirtation isn’t about being a tease, it’s about showing your interest and curiosity – and piquing his.When I suggest that to the over-40 single women in my dating workshops and coaching programs, I can see them cringe.Tell him you agree with something he says; ask his opinion; let him suggest a book or restaurant; tell him you appreciate his jokes or that his business sounds interesting. I recommend that my clients ask and answer this question out loud: What do I like about him and what do I want him to know about me?Tell him you want to know more about something he’s interested in. Then just have a little conversation with yourself.Tell him you’re studying French because you have dreams of going to Paris. We aren’t used to talking about ourselves because we’ve been told it’s selfish and braggadocios. ) Real ladies are humble and let the man shine, right? Don’t be afraid to share your passions, interests, accomplishments, interesting life experiences and plans for the future.You will get attention and get dates by showing the confidence to tell him who you are. It would be nice to do it again.” That makes it clear that you’re open, and it shows that ever-attractive confidence. (Men really do appreciate this…just think of how many times they’ve heard “no” in their lives! One last note: Remember that if he doesn’t go for your attempt, he probably knows something you don’t know about why you’re not a good match.In addition to losing your money to someone who had no intention of ever visiting you, you may also have unknowingly taken part in a money laundering scheme by cashing phony checks and sending the money overseas and by shipping stolen merchandise (the forwarded package).In another recently reported dating extortion scam, victims usually met someone on an online dating site and then were asked to move the conversation to a particular social networking site, where the talk often turned intimate.When you’re online, pick something that stands out to you that the other thousands of women may not. Instead, tell him you think it’s cool that he’s an engineer and ask him what he likes to create. When you do, you will stand out and he will take a second look. This helps you get the words out so you can communicate in a genuine and open way.When you write, let him know some real stuff about you.