And yet most of us get online and wonder why it always feels so stale.
It’s because YOU’RE making it stale, and you’re accepting stale conversation from others. If you sound like you’re presuming you’ll get an email back, you’re much more likely to get an email back. You’re not here to find out if a person will sleep with you or marry you in a first email. I think we have a lot in common – particularly our mutual love of rum punch.
Before the craziness of Tinder, Grindr and other swipe-as-you-go dating apps, there were services that actually cared about personality, values and interests when it came to a match. It's just natural that you and your partner are on the same page, too. Being a 20-something is probably the biggest grey area you'll encounter in your life.
“He was so lively and engaging that I sort of had no choice but to come back with something equally witty and creative.”“So by him writing something playful and interesting to you, he actually brought out a more playful and interesting side of you? They’re just as boring as the ones that you received.
As explained in great detail in this article, most emails sound like they could have been pre-written by anyone in the world. Could you imagine having such serious conversations with a stranger at a party? Would you like my phone number and to learn more about me? Now, consider that you’ve been saying that to hundreds of women online for years. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you need to differentiate yourself.
Here is one short email that makes 11 mistakes in only a couple of lines. ”Who would a woman rather go out with – the boring lunkhead who asks for her number before he’s had a chance to charm her, or the witty guy whose every email she anticipates with delight? And studies show that confidence and humor are the two most desirable qualities in both men AND women.
We all want someone to set the tone and follow along, instead of realizing that we’re always setting the tone ourselves.
I realize that I’ve gone on a bit of a tangent from your original question, Dwayne, but this is important.