“Trying to discuss your boyfriend’s bisexuality while intoxicated at a loud party doesn’t make for a very thoughtful discussion.
Make sure you are both ready and present to talk about sexuality, comfort and boundaries.” In addition, Smith also advises thinking about what you are going to say before you head into the conversation. It’ll get you thinking about what you want to say and how you want to say it,” she says.
A last word about 'passing': we don't have passing privilege. Bisexuals have lower health, do worse in any social issue than gays and lesbians do.
And the attitude of both straight and gay/lesbian communities is a direct cause of that.
“If you choose to date someone that is bisexual, you might have questions for them about their sexual preference,” she says.
“In contrast, my second bisexual boyfriend was attracted to both guys and girls equally, and he thought that was an important part of being bisexual.” Smith also reminds collegiettes that being bisexual says nothing about a person’s promiscuity.
“Unfortunately, our culture sometimes associates bisexuality with being heavily sexual or unable to be monogamous, which is of course not the case! “It’s a common misconception, and it’s an important one to think about! You should be respectful and open-minded You might feel a little weird approaching a beau (or potential beau) about his sexuality; after all, sexuality is an extremely personal thing, and you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings!
“A lot of the time, conversations about sexuality and relationships turn sour when people don’t think before they speak!
” Even though your level of openness and honesty might differ depending on your relationship, there are a couple of sexual-orientation-conversation no-nos.