Not surprisingly, now that my career as a dating coach is in order and my head is on straight, I’m more open to giving and receiving love. I couldn’t tell you, but I know there’s something there that you’re not seeing.
Read this post from a few months back and you’ll hear yourself, Lauren.
I’m very good at talking to people, and those dates went reasonably well. I’m out almost every night of the week, at lectures, readings, arts events, classes, club meetings, and various social functions. I have a large circle of friends and acquaintances. And I *literally* can’t remember the last time a man I met in any way or setting asked me out. I found them to be polite and non-committal, as in, “That’d be great.
But blonde-haired, blue-eyed, and buxom though I am, a super model I’m not. I accept frequent invitations and meet their friends and friends of friends. I run a very social book group that meets in a bar. We should definitely do that some time.” Now I’m old and grumpy. I would kind of hope the man could show enough interest to actually approach me in some way, shape, or form.
…Despite the title of my second book, , being single is a fine state of affairs.
All of this is me saying that there’s nothing wrong with being single.And since the age-old answers like “I’m picky,” “I just haven’t met the right guy,” and “Men suck” aren’t leading us to a desired conclusion, everything I write is designed to create a greater level of self-awareness in how we are complicit in our own fates.Shining the light on myself, I’ve definitely been too picky at times.After all, there’s no special skill for getting married. It’s why I’ve never once worried about my qualifications to give dating advice.I don’t suddenly get smarter if I propose to my girlfriend."Neither Sylvester nor any of the thirty-two popes before him, nor those succeeding him, ever emphasized that there were at least three well-known and authentic lines of legitimate blood descent from Jesus' own family..." ~Malachi Martin "The Roman Catholic Church tried to kill off all remnants of the Desposyni and their guardians, the Cathars and the Templars, during the Inquisition, in order to maintain power through the apostolic succession of Peter instead of the hereditary succession of Mary Magdalene." ~The Rise and Fall of the Catholic Church Jesus said, "If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you.If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you." The Nag Hammadi Library They said unto him, "How shall we then, enter the kingdom?So ask yourself: are your goals and your actions aligned? I’m perfectly nice, average-looking, intelligent and intellectual, funny, creative, etc. There probably isn’t one guy that I wouldn’t have given a second chance, but out of many, many men only two of them ever gave me a second date.You may read this and think I’m a terrible date, but I’m self aware enough to know I’m not a disaster. I pursue things that interest me, and I’m friendly and open to meeting people who share those interests. I’m not sitting at home waiting for the phone to ring. Oh, and for the record, I did try asking men out when I was younger.Yet when we’re single, we sort of hope things will work out. If you’re not doing all of these things, you’re not doing enough.Yes, it’s great when the universe provides a cute, attractive, successful, intuitive, funny, kind, emotionally available man at your doorstep.