Many years ago, I heard Rav Ahron Soloveichik zt”l explain that bashert guarantees only one thing: God arranges that you encounter that person.
does not guarantee that you will marry that person, or that the marriage will be a happy and fulfilling one; those depend on our free choice and good character traits.
According to About's Christianity Expert, the Proverbs were written by and during the reign of King Solomon (971-931 B. Solomon was the son of King David, who is credited with writing many of the Psalms.
Proverbs are short sayings that zero in on both a problem and solution, making them a good choice for daily devotionals or advice.
Do you need more and more advice, and more and more recommendations – or is a change in approach and a removal of [self-imposed] obstacles most desirable? ” Maybe the right one is in your vicinity – even a meter away – but you ignore her because you are focused – obsessed – on some model who is unattainable [or on an ideal that is a fantasy] and therefore you are uncertain if the person you are with is the right one.The Proverbs deal with everyday life issues, like conflicts with family, trusting God, and keeping good friends in your life.The sayings are ideal for simplifying life's most important concepts, like getting along and showing kindness and love to others.Conversely, a friend who challenges you in a good way and encourages you leaves you feeling strong and happy.Surround yourself with positive people so you can recognize a negative friendship when it comes your way. They will act rudely, hurt our feelings, and behave like buffoons sometimes.It should remain in the realm of divine secrets to which we have no access, and which plays no role in our deliberations. This statement is somewhat true but also conditional – the condition being that you don’t interfere with what should happen.From G-d’s perspective, He has long desired to see many of his sons and daughters standing joyously under the (marriage canopy). But the problem is that there are those who, with their own hands, sabotage the process. Through their patterns of analysis, their manner of searching for a spouse and their conduct while dating.Every friend, no matter how long they are in your life, can teach you to be a better person.A great approach to life is surrounding yourself with people you can emulate, those who are experienced (mentors, perhaps) who you'd be wise to learn from.Memorizing one or two of these proverbs can help you put things in perspective when your friendship is going through a tough time or when you're looking for something to focus on as an act of gratitude.If you ever feel frustrated that you and your friends just can't seem to get along, you can take heart in the fact that people for thousands of years have experienced frequent conflicts with their friends.